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Imagine you’re at a party. A guy offers you a drink. You say no. He says “Come on, one drink!” You say “no thanks.” Later, he brings you a soda. “I know you said you didn’t want a drink, but I was getting one for myself and you looked thirsty.” For you to refuse at this point makes you the asshole. He’s just being nice, right? Predators use the social contract and our own good hearts and fear of being rude against us. If you drink the drink, you’re teaching him that it just takes a little persistence on his part to overcome your “no.” If you say “Really, I appreciate it, but no thanks” and put the drink down and walk away from it, you’re the one who looks rude in that moment. But the fact is, you didn’t ask for the drink and you don’t want the drink and you don’t have to drink it just to make some guy feel validated.
The art of “no,” continued: Saying no when you’ve already said yes. « CaptainAwkward.com
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I suck at blogathons! :( Sorry. I tried my best.
In other news, I had an upsetting start to the morning as I read about sexism on the Internet; specifically, the recent hullabaloo over Anita Sarkeesian’s Kickstarter project about sexist tropes in video games. And, of course, as several sources reported, the hordes of trolls came rushing out of Mordor to threaten, demean, and taunt her for even attempting to voice an opinion about women and games. WARNING: TRIGGERS ABOUND in the news articles above.
The most depressing article I read was on The Mary Sue, mostly because the comments were full of women commiserating, talking about how hard it is to play online, and swapping tips on how to deal with comments like the usual, “Tits or GTFO,” and so on. Blergh.
From there, I link-hopped over to a CNN article about brogrammers.
The most hilarious part of the “brogrammers” article is when Path executive Matt Van Horn got some heat for bragging about sending “‘bikini shots’ from a ‘nudie calendar,’” he backtracked and said:
…the calendar he mentioned was, in fact, a college charity project to aid tsunami victims in Southeast Asia and featured both male and female models.
Nice try, bro.
Basically:
On a happier note, BF and I are planning to run away for a month to New Orleans. It will be a working vacation full of brainstorming and booze, or something like that. More brainstorming than booze, hopefully.
I’m just trying to chug through the rest of my June projects in the meantime, and hoping that nothing goes horribly awry. I badly need to get away for a little bit, so I think the change of scenery will do me good.
Speaking of change, I dyed my hair purple!
Finally. My dreams of being an anime character have been realized.
Plz to ignore the scruffiness of my hair; I’d just gotten out of the shower.
It’s so early! Wake me up when it’s July.
'I'm Not Your Wife!' A New Study Points to a Hidden Form of Sexism
”’[Can] a domestic traditionalist can also be an organizational egalitarian?’ The answer we posit is ‘no.’”
I AM KILLING THIS MEME.
welp.
THANK YOU! ”Friend Zone Fiona” just became “Reasonable Fiona Who Unfortunately Happens To Be Friends With A ‘Nice Guy’”
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the base of ln: Why I Resigned from The Good Men Project
“All of this behavior reflects two things: men’s genuine fear of being challenged and confronted, and the persistence of the stereotype of feminists as being aggressive, wrathful, “man-bashers.” The painful thing about all this, of course, is that no man is in any real physical…
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When I started making those weird voices, a lot of people told me how whack it was,” she says, “‘What the fuck are you doing?’ they’d say. ‘Why do you sound like that? That doesn’t sound sexy to me.’ And then I started saying, Oh, that’s not sexy to you? Good. I’m going to do it more. Maybe I don’t want to be sexy for you today.
Nicki Minaj (BlackBook Magazine)
THAT’S. WHAT. I’VE. BEEN. SAYING. y’al be letting your anti-femmeness fool you. just cause she’s wearing pink don’t mean she ain’t fucking with shit in some supercreative and intelligent ways.
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I’m going to keep this around for the next time somebody posts a complainy Facebook status about how women shouldn’t wear/do/say xyz because it’s so unattractive.
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Black Barbie Doll Drive in Columbus |
“We’re holding the Black Barbie Doll Drive, where we collected new and used Barbies to give to the girls at the BTW Girls Inc. and we’re turning them into natural hair Barbies,” said Candace McBride, Organizer for the Black Barbie Drive.
In Columbus, Frolific is hoping to makes the wishes of needy young girls come true this holiday…But this time with a “twist.”
“Natural, is chemical free hair or hair with no perms. And you can wear it curly, you can wear it locked, or you can wear it straight. It’s just without a relaxer,” said McBride.
Hiding behind the hair, is a more important message: Teaching girls to accept who they are.
“Children need to know the importance of loving themselves and the way God made them and they don’t need any alterations to their hair or bodies to make them better…That they’re good enough the way that they are,” said McBride.
“Gamer” Girls
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True fact.
LOL. I see what you did there. Now, hand me a sniper rifle. I’ll get rid of that for you.
Pretty much a few of the girls I know.
Let me get my P90…
There was something really problematic about this comic to me and it made me feel uneasy though I couldn’t really articulate why. Looking in the notes and seeing some of the blatant misogyny and femmephobia on display tells me my gut feeling was right.
Side-eyeing a whole motherfucking bunch of people rn.
I find the last panel suspicious, but the rest of it seems about right. Gamer Girls (distinct from girls who game) are on a whole new level of douchery because of the sheer volume of internalized sexism. Gamer Girls sneer at women who can’t “kick it with the guys,” and roll their eyes when women object to sexist comments. “God, why do you have to be so sensitive? So what if he yelled out ‘I’m gonna rape these n00bs’ during the WoW raid? You just don’t get it, you’re too girly.”
I fucking hate Gamer Girls.
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House Considers “Prenatal Nondiscrimination Act,” I.e. the We-Don’t-Trust-Women-Of-Color Act December 6, 2011 by Rachel Kwan
I’m writing today to ask my fellow women of color reproductive justice activists and our allies to take a united stand against the Susan B. Anthony and Frederick Douglass Prenatal Nondiscrimination Act(PRENDA), a race- and sex-specific anti-abortion bill thatwent before the House Judiciary Subcommittee on the Constitution today. I cannot repeat enough times the urgency of moving quickly to act in solidarity.
This is a federal version of legislation that a coalition of women-of-color organizations defeated at the local level in Georgia. It attempts to restrict women of color’s access to abortion and prenatal care in the name of “civil rights.” This bill seeks to protect “unborn Americans” by banning race- and sex-selection abortions.However, the argument that fetuses must be protected from the women of color relies on racist stereotypes about entire communities:
- First, that Black women are selfish, irresponsible, and incapable of making reproductive decisions on their own behalf
- Second, that Asian women mindlessly reproduce “son preference” and bring “dangerous values” into the country.
This is patently untrue. Black and Asian/Pacific Islander women have consistently fought for the right to make their own decisions about if and when they will have children based on the support networks and resources that are available in their communities. This bill attempts to drive another wedge between women and their reproductive health practitioners. It will exacerbate many of the existing structural barriers that we women of color must overcomein order to access reproductive healthcare. It will put pressure on abortion-care providers to conduct racial profiling on us, requiring them to secondguess our motivations in seeking abortions. It will do nothing to address the entrenched disparities that low-income women of color must navigate every day in seeking reproductive care. It willnot contribute to grassroots-level change in Asian communities where we are already working to address the sexist roots of son preference.
This bill has been put forward by members of Congress who consistently vote to decimate funding for reproductive health services and family support programs. This bill is backed by the same anti-abortion group that put out racist billboard campaigns targeting Black communities.
This bill would result in increased scrutiny of the reproductive decision-making of Black, Latina, and Asian/Pacific Islander women. It is an affront our rights to privacy, to bodily autonomy, and to mobilize in concert to create change and solidarity in our communities—based on our priorities and experiences, our visions for the future and our agency.
Click here to contact your Congressperson to tell them that you strongly oppose this racist and anti-woman legislation.
My thanks for the information and advocacy of the National Asian Pacific American Women’s Forum, Trust Black Women, the Leadership Conference on Civil and Human Rights and the grassroots activism of SisterSong NYC, as well as those unidentified warriors whose words and wisdom I am drawing on for this post.
Excerpted with permission from The Abortion Gang.
What the… “Susan B. Anthony and Frederick Douglass Prenatal Nondiscrimination Act”? Really?
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