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Imagine you’re at a party. A guy offers you a drink. You say no. He says “Come on, one drink!” You say “no thanks.” Later, he brings you a soda. “I know you said you didn’t want a drink, but I was getting one for myself and you looked thirsty.” For you to refuse at this point makes you the asshole. He’s just being nice, right? Predators use the social contract and our own good hearts and fear of being rude against us. If you drink the drink, you’re teaching him that it just takes a little persistence on his part to overcome your “no.” If you say “Really, I appreciate it, but no thanks” and put the drink down and walk away from it, you’re the one who looks rude in that moment. But the fact is, you didn’t ask for the drink and you don’t want the drink and you don’t have to drink it just to make some guy feel validated.
The art of “no,” continued: Saying no when you’ve already said yes. « CaptainAwkward.com
I love this post SO MUCH.
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guys, guys
I suck at blogathons! :( Sorry. I tried my best.
In other news, I had an upsetting start to the morning as I read about sexism on the Internet; specifically, the recent hullabaloo over Anita Sarkeesian’s Kickstarter project about sexist tropes in video games. And, of course, as several sources reported, the hordes of trolls came rushing out of Mordor to threaten, demean, and taunt her for even attempting to voice an opinion about women and games. WARNING: TRIGGERS ABOUND in the news articles above.
The most depressing article I read was on The Mary Sue, mostly because the comments were full of women commiserating, talking about how hard it is to play online, and swapping tips on how to deal with comments like the usual, “Tits or GTFO,” and so on. Blergh.
From there, I link-hopped over to a CNN article about brogrammers.
The most hilarious part of the “brogrammers” article is when Path executive Matt Van Horn got some heat for bragging about sending “‘bikini shots’ from a ‘nudie calendar,’” he backtracked and said:
…the calendar he mentioned was, in fact, a college charity project to aid tsunami victims in Southeast Asia and featured both male and female models.
Nice try, bro.
Basically:
On a happier note, BF and I are planning to run away for a month to New Orleans. It will be a working vacation full of brainstorming and booze, or something like that. More brainstorming than booze, hopefully.
I’m just trying to chug through the rest of my June projects in the meantime, and hoping that nothing goes horribly awry. I badly need to get away for a little bit, so I think the change of scenery will do me good.
Speaking of change, I dyed my hair purple!
Finally. My dreams of being an anime character have been realized.
Plz to ignore the scruffiness of my hair; I’d just gotten out of the shower.
It’s so early! Wake me up when it’s July.
'I'm Not Your Wife!' A New Study Points to a Hidden Form of Sexism
”’[Can] a domestic traditionalist can also be an organizational egalitarian?’ The answer we posit is ‘no.’”
I AM KILLING THIS MEME.
welp.
THANK YOU! ”Friend Zone Fiona” just became “Reasonable Fiona Who Unfortunately Happens To Be Friends With A ‘Nice Guy’”
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the base of ln: Why I Resigned from The Good Men Project
“All of this behavior reflects two things: men’s genuine fear of being challenged and confronted, and the persistence of the stereotype of feminists as being aggressive, wrathful, “man-bashers.” The painful thing about all this, of course, is that no man is in any real physical…
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When I started making those weird voices, a lot of people told me how whack it was,” she says, “‘What the fuck are you doing?’ they’d say. ‘Why do you sound like that? That doesn’t sound sexy to me.’ And then I started saying, Oh, that’s not sexy to you? Good. I’m going to do it more. Maybe I don’t want to be sexy for you today.
Nicki Minaj (BlackBook Magazine)
THAT’S. WHAT. I’VE. BEEN. SAYING. y’al be letting your anti-femmeness fool you. just cause she’s wearing pink don’t mean she ain’t fucking with shit in some supercreative and intelligent ways.
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I’m going to keep this around for the next time somebody posts a complainy Facebook status about how women shouldn’t wear/do/say xyz because it’s so unattractive.
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Disdain for “political correctness” is often positioned as a concern that some important truth is not being spoken for fear of offending someone. But that concern is nothing but smoke and mirrors. To invoke “political correctness” is really to be concerned about loss of power and privilege. It is about disappointment that some “ism” that was ingrained in our society, so much that citizens of privilege could express the bias through word and deed without fear of reprisal, has been shaken loose. Charging “political correctness” generally means this: “I am comfortable with my privilege. I don’t want to have to question it. I don’t want to have to think before I speak or act. I certainly don’t wish to inconvenience myself for the comfort of lesser people (whoever those people may be—women, people of color, people with disabilities, etc.)
We’ve been seeing this on Facebook & Twitter, and thanks Quirky Taiwan for sending us a direct message about this. I tried to find the video, but this is the closest I got (0.36).
Well, what to say? Seriously, Disney?
Not like we haven’t seen this before. But it’s always a little jarring when it’s right in front of your face, in animated form.
1. Disney should absolutely know better, being the provider of entertainment to young people.
2. The character who said this is Asian. If you pay more attention, most of the time, these lines tend to be said by Asian actors/actresses. This is a “subtle” way of poking fun at how Asian people are skinny because apparently we just don’t eat.
3. Demi Lovato is a bad ass
for speaking up against her former employer.That is all.
- Lisa
What
My band and I go backstage before the show, to set up and sound check. The bouncer asks me to leave, saying “girlfriends aren’t allowed backstage.” When I tell him I’m a musician, he makes me go get my instrument and play it, to prove that I’m actually in the band. This (or some variant) happens to me at almost every new venue we play.
What the mighty fuck.
Things I like
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anonymous asked: why can’t a man say “i’m only attracted to asians” but can say “i’m only...
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anonymous asked: are there degrees of racism?
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Anonymous asked: Yo, when I was like 10 I repeated something I heard about "political correctness" to my mom. She told me that whenever I hear the phrase "politically correct" I should mentally replace it with "polite" and see if it makes the speaker sound like a jerk. It totally works (and, surprise, they always sound like jerks). Props to my savvy mom.
Props to your savvy mom.
